Cultivating Healthy Relationships

Hi there,

Welcome to another edition of Simpler Sundays, a weekly newsletter aimed at giving you a dose of relaxed reading at the end of each week. This is the 9th edition of Simpler Sundays. If you’d like any of your friends or family to subscribe to this newsletter, you can share this link. That said, let’s begin this week’s edition.

Have you heard of the TV series ‘How I Met Your Mother (HIMYM)’? If you have, then you’d understand the reference, and if you haven’t then I’ll give you a quick brief.

So, it is a fairly popular sitcom in which the protagonist of the story, Ted Mosby, narrates his kids the story of how he met their mother. (Ok, maybe not the greatest explanation.)

Anyway, let’s move ahead. So, the other day I was having a conversation about this show with a friend of mine who is also a fan of HIMYM. While discussing some of the most beautiful scenes from this series, I realized how TV series and movies, in general, often indulge in the over-romanticizing of stories.

They often portray romantic relationships as if they are some sort of magical fairytales. They show the guy and the girl having some terrible relationships until they stumble upon each other.

And as soon as they meet each other, they suddenly realize that they’ve met THE ONE. After that, it’s always a fairly easy ride. They instantly hit it off, they quickly develop an understanding about each other, and they want to spend the rest of their lives together.

To be honest, I don’t blame the makers of these TV series and movies because they understand that such content sells. As a viewer, we get a warm and fuzzy feeling by seeing people falling passionately in love with each other. Honestly speaking, even I enjoy watching such stuff.

The only problem is that when these viewers get into relationships themselves, they expect similar kinds of standards. They expect to madly be in love with their partners. They expect things to be as effortless as they see on TV.

But here’s the thing. In reality, relationships take effort from both partners. Even if your partner is THE ONE, it would still take effort to build a healthy relationship.

People are complicated. That is why real-life relationships are messy.

  • You need time to understand a person’s likes and dislikes.
  • You need time to understand how a person reacts under different circumstances.
  • You need time to figure out if your long-term goals align with each other.
  • You need time to understand if you both are compatible or not.

But through effort and understanding, you CAN build a healthy relationship. The only difference is that this healthy relationship wouldn’t look like the one you see on TV. However, it would be way more beneficial for you.

So, here’s how you build a healthy relationship:

  • You both understand each other’s individuality. You understand that you both are different beings with different tastes or priorities in life. You both have lives of your own outside your partner.
  • You don’t make your partner your entire world, but you make them an important part of your world. Understand the difference.
  • You both understand that relationships require hard work. You acknowledge the fact that a healthy relationship will require efforts from you both.
  • You criticize each other without any hesitation because you both understand that you have each other’s best interests at heart. Conversely, you learn to take constructive criticism from them instead of getting angry over them for it.
  • You both understand that you don’t have to rush into anything. You understand that things that grow slow, last longer.

A healthy relationship wouldn’t be flashy. It would be simple, built on the foundation of trust and understanding.

And trust me, simple is good. 🙂

The Good Word

As you might know, the ‘Good Word’ is a series showcasing my favorite quotes.

Deviating from the norm, for this week’s good word, I’ve featured a quote from a good friend of mine. If you’d also like to get your quote featured here, you can reply to this email and share your quote. It might get featured in next week’s newsletter.

So, here’s this week’s Good Word:

“When you are in love, you don’t fall for the other person, you actually fall in love with yourself when you are with that person.”

– Akanksha Srivastava (Instagram: the_messy_canvas)

VyasSpeaks Featured Post

This week’s featured post is about minimalism and how it can be implemented to simplify your expenses.

Read the post by clicking the link or image below.

 How Can Minimalism Simplify Your Expenses?

That’s all for this week. I’ll see you next Sunday.

Stay safe and take care.

With love,
Shikhil Vyas

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