Happiness can be a tricky concept to wrap your head around.
A happy man doesn’t ask himself whether he’s happy. He just is.
Chasing happiness, will most likely, leave you unhappy.Tweet
Life’s quite counterintuitive in that sense. When you focus too much on being happy, you end up unhappy.
What you need to understand is that happiness is a byproduct.
It comes naturally when you –
• Seek growth
• Accomplish difficult things
• Have novel experiences
• Build good relationships
• Have a purpose in life
Ask a marathon runner, the feeling of completing a marathon. Ask an artist the feeling of finishing an artwork. Ask a writer the feeling of writing a book.
From an outside point of view, these tasks are not easy to perform. Yet for these people, these same tasks are a source of happiness.
These marathon runners, artists, or writers do not seek happiness.
But happiness comes to them as a byproduct of achieving difficult things.
Mark Manson puts it very well, “If you have to try to be cool, you will never be cool. If you have to try to be happy, then you will never be happy.”
Thanks for reading. I am Shikhil Vyas, a technical content writer and self-help blogger. Subscribe to my bi-monthly newsletter, Simpler Sundays, to get a dose of relaxed reading delivered directly to your inbox.